Why are Limiting Beliefs bad

Stop sign. What are limiting beliefs

Why are we interested or even want to know the answer to the question of why are Limiting Beliefs bad?

We are interested because of the way they can influence and impact upon our life now and future. The way they STOP us doing things we want to do especially reaching our goals in all areas of our life as well as work/business.

Limiting beliefs come about from things we have heard through our lives often from childhood. We tend to be more emotionally susceptible to the experiences that we have early on in life than we are later in life.

It’s often said that children are like sponges, absorbing all sorts of things that they hear and see as well as things they are taught.

Children pick up many things that become Core beliefs.

What is a Belief?

From Your Dictionary.

  1. the state of believing; conviction or acceptance that certain things are true or real
  2. faith, esp. religious faith
  3. trust or confidence: I have belief in his ability
  4. anything believed or accepted as true; esp., a creed, doctrine, or tenet
  5. an opinion; expectation; judgment: my belief is that he’ll come

From the Merriam Webster Dictionary.

  • 1a state or habit of mind in which trust or confidence is placed in some person or thing.
  • 2something that is accepted, considered to be true, or held as an opinion something believed.
  • 3conviction of the truth of some statement or the reality of some being or phenomenon especially when based on examination of evidence

And we learn this from Wikipeadia.

  • Belief is the attitude that something is the case or true. In epistemology, philosophers use the term “belief” to refer to personal attitudes associated with true or false ideas and concepts. However, “belief” does not require active introspection and circumspection. For example, few ponder whether the sun will rise, just assume it will.

What are Core beliefs?

Wikipeadia says:

Basic beliefs (also commonly called foundational beliefs or core beliefs) are, under the epistemological view called foundationalism, the axioms of a belief system.

Categories of beliefs

Foundationalism holds that all beliefs must be justified in order to be believed. Beliefs therefore fall into two categories:

  • Beliefs that are properly basic, in that they do not depend upon justification of other beliefs, but on something outside the realm of belief.
  • Beliefs that derive from one or more basic beliefs, and therefore depend on the basic beliefs for their validity.

 

This makes perfect sense. believe in yourself  Why are Limiting Beliefs badWe have foundation or core beliefs that come from our surroundings and the people in our young lives. These give out lives structure and a basis to grow into our world. Many are also in place to keep us safe from people and situations, even the outside world.

So those beliefs can also hold us back.

We can say positive statements/mantras, believe that we can become successful and have the perfect life. That we can reach lofty goals if we just work harder and faster, that belief in ourselves will win the day.

Then we feel that we are not doing enough or doing something wrong. After all there are plenty of others doing the same things and living that perfect life.

Are Core and Limiting Beliefs the same?

I believe that limiting beliefs are the core beliefs that hold us back in life. Those core beliefs don’t change and grow with us, they don’t adjust as our world changes and we change from child to adult.

Consider how many young adults vote the same way their parents did. Many follow the religion they are brought up in.

They don’t question these or others like them. Some will and some will be encouraged to be independant and make their own minds up. That is rare though. Most parents bring up their children the same way they were brought up.

From the blog Inc.com

  • You have core beliefs that guide the decisions you make. They affect how you interpret the events in your life and they influence the way you think, feel, and behave.
  • Your healthy beliefs serve you well. But, the unrealistic, self-limiting beliefs you hold onto–and everyone has some unhealthy beliefs–can hold you back from reaching your greatest potential.
  • It’s important to acknowledge your core beliefs and examine which ones might be inaccurate and unproductive. Then, you can take steps to let go of the beliefs that are limiting your potential.

The unhealthy beliefs can be about yourself, others or the world.

What makes them Limiting Beliefs?

They hold us up, keep us back in the slow lane, behind everyone else.10 kmh sign

From Changingminds.org

  • Limiting beliefs are those that constrain us in some way. Just by believing in them, we don’t think, do or say the things they inhibit. And in doing so we impoverish our lives.
  • We may have them about rights, duties, abilities, permissions and so on.
  • Limiting beliefs are often about ourselves and our self identity. They may also be about other people and the world in general.
  • Most of all, they limit us

Common Limiting Beliefs.

From MindShifts

  • 1. I’m too old
  • 2. I’m not smart enough
  • 3. I am not educated enough
  • 4. I’m afraid of trying and failing
  • 5. You have to have money to make money
  • 6. I’ve already tried everything
  • 7. I can’t do that
  • 8. I don’t feel I really deserve it
  • 9. I’ll never be able to do that
  • 10. All the good ones are taken

 

Any of those sound familiar? The first one can also be the opposite,  too young. Quite a few of those go under the very common one. “I’m not good enough”.  This one can impact all areas of your life, constantly holding you back.

There are the money based limiting beliefs. These can hold you back from reaching success as often you end up self sabotaging before you actually become successful.

Do You Want more out of life!

Do you? Have you tried over and over again to change your life, worked hard, 2 or even 3 jobs to try and get ahead?

Do you feel that something inexplicably stops you from having the life you want? Or do you wonder why success is always out of reach?

Do you want to do more with your life?

There are so many limiting beliefs stored in your subconscious mind, that were originally there to keep you safe. That was good when you were a child but now as an adult they can keep you from living the life you want. From reaching goals, to never quite attaining success, to choice of life partner and so on.

Conclusionexit sign

Limiting beliefs can hold you back in so many ways and can stop you from living a fulfilled and happy life.

It can affect the life partner you choose, the work you go for as well as you general views on life.

There are many people who start businesses, new jobs etc that always give up before they start to do really well at the job or the business starts to take off. Those around them tend to be baffled by it and wonder why. It’s not a deliberate attempt to sabotage themselves, it’s a subconscious move. If they become successful and then wealthy it will go against a long held belief or a set of beliefs.

The human potential is almost limitless, but having potential is not the same as actually doing something with it. Many never fulfill even a small part of that potential because of limiting beliefs they have no idea they have.

So the answer to why are Limiting Beliefs bad is that they can affect every area of your life. They can affect the choices you make and ultimately affect your happiness, without you ever realising why.

Did I answer this question of What are Limiting Beliefs?

Do you feel that something inexplicably stops you from having the life you want? Or do you wonder why success is always out of reach?

Do you want to do more with your life?

Maybe it’s time to get that life you want. Now that you know what’s holding you back, it’s time to take the steps to break free, to head for the exit and freedom to be who you really are.

My next post will be how to do that.

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Definition of Change

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What is change?

Change is the only thing in life that is constant, so what is the definition of change? There will always be changes whether we like them or not, it’s a natural process that will always occur. Some are caused by nature and not of our doing, while others occur by sudden inclination.

  • “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” Lao Tzu
  • “Life is about change, sometimes it’s painful. Sometimes it’s beautiful. But most of the time, it’s both.” Lana Lang.
  • “One reason people resist change is because they focus on what they have to give up, instead of what they have to gain.” Rick Godwin.

Definition of change

From the Merriam-Webster dictionary.

  • Verb: to become different, or to make someone or something different.

There are also many other ways of putting it. The Cambridge Dictionary is much the same.

I could copy and paste great swathes of information but I won’t as you can have a look by clicking on the name if you are interested.

Alternative words for change:

alteration, variation, vicissitude, substitution, swerving, deviation, diversion, shuffling, difference, reconstruction, aberration, evolution, restyling, innovation, move, interchange, trade, switch, fluctuation, wavering, modulation, alternating, exchange, mutation, transformation, transmutation, modification, vary, swap, shift….

And there are many more.

So change is a big part of life in its many different forms.

As human beings, we tend to resist change. It begins when we are small as we go through a phase of wanting everything to be the same, such as: food (all meals), toys, clothes, the journeys taken and so on.

  • The fear of change or changing things is called Metathesiophobia.hiding behind and under cushions

 

Where does the fear originate from?

Most likely from cavemen times. There was safety in sticking to the same routes when travelling or hunting because life was more dangerous.

They stuck close to home and socialised with their own tribe. Strangers meant danger, they probably wanted to kill you.

Heights  came with the possibility of falling, speed probably meant you were running for your life. Excitement very likely meant fighting for your life.

Everything back then was about survival, there was danger in change. It wasn’t a good thing to do. Now however, we have evolved but the instincts to resist change are still there.

 

Why is Change Good now?

We no longer have to be as hyper alert to danger as our ancestors were. So change is good, without change we stagnate. We tend to stay within our comfort zone and it becomes a habit.

A young couple in a relationship need change to keep it moving forwards. If the relationship doesn’t change and grow it stagnates and they drift apart.

Some people as they get older stick to the same habits and routines that gradually diminish their interactions with others. Their world shrinks until they are existing rather than living. Life should be about expanding your horizons and comfort zone, rather than shrinking it.

Live, don’t just Exist.time for change Definition of Change

It has never been easier to learn new things even if you don’t have permanent access to a desktop computer or laptop. Nowadays you can use them in libraries for free and there are internet cafes. Many access the internet on their phones with the free WiFi available in so many places.

The internet opens our world up to infinite possibilities, explore them and grow as a person.

Older people cant learn new things?

Actually they can. The saying used to be ” An old dog can’t learn new tricks”. People apply this to themselves. It’s a good excuse for not making an effort.

Scientists have proved that we can continue to grow new neural networks well into our 90’s if we continue learning.

Curiousity keeps us young. Be curious about the world we live in and about your own smaller world. Ask yourself why people do this or that, how something is made and what would happen if…..

Being curious keeps us interested in life and whats going on around us. A chance comment or a written sentence can lead us to learn a wealth of new information without even trying. Learning doesn’t have to be boring. Many people are put off because they think of their schooldays, often learning by repetition.

Some things are good to learn that way, others just boring. I still know my times tables and they still come in useful. In my schooldays we recited them over and over until we knew them by heart. But it’s not exactly an exciting way to learn.

Why should I bother?

Because it can be fun.

It gives you something to talk about with others.

Exchanging views, talking about what you have learnt can be enjoyable. If you really listen and don’t just listen to have your say, you will find that the other person’s view can change yours a little. They may have a view you haven’t considered, that you may think about later and eventually integrates with your views, especially if you have an open mind.

What’s an open mind?keeping an open mind

The meaning in the Cambridge English Dictionary

  • 12 Feb 2020 – open mind definition: to wait until you know all the facts before forming an opinion or making a judgment.

Definition of an open mind by Merriam-Webster

  • Open mind definition is – a willingness to listen to or accept different ideas or opinions.

I agree with both of those. We learn by listening and not immediately jumping to conclusions.

Many will only consider their own point of view despite evidence that contradicts them. Though to be honest you can find information, facts and figures to support pretty much any hypothesis, which encourages people to close their minds to other possibilities.

Conclusion.

So we started with change and it ‘changed’ into discussions on views and keeping an open mind. Which of course is what much change is about. A willingness to look at new things and consider them.

To try something different without automatically saying, I can’t.

Try saying, I will try, instead of the automatic no, I can’t. It could lead to you having fun and enjoying life much more.

 


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