What is negativity?
- Negativity is a tendency to be downbeat, disagreeable and skeptical. It’s a pessimistic attitude that always expects the worst.
- Negative outcomes are bad outcomes, like losing a game, getting a disease, suffering an injury, or getting something stolen. Negativity is an attitude that always expects such negative things to happen. “I bet it’ll rain during our picnic!” and “No one could ever love me!” are examples of negativity. “The world is getting worse and worse!” is negativity. Someone full of negativity is hard to cheer up, and they always expect the worst. The opposite of negativity is positivity.
Negativity can become a bad habit that makes the world seem grey. We need more positivity in the world rather than less. With that in mind I have written the blog with just 3 ways to overcome negativity that might help the adjustment from negative to positive.
Ultimately, how you look at your life, is what will make you happy or unhappy.
When you are consumed with negative thoughts and beliefs, you will discover that you are unhappy with your life. Eventually, your perception of the world will become your reality. This is why changing your mindset is so important because it will make a substantial difference in your life. Here are four signs that it’s time for you to change your mindset.
You Focus on Everything That’s Wrong
A sure indication that you need to shift your mindset is when you continuously fix your attention on the disappointments and worry in your life. To change this mindset, you need to take some time to think about the things you are thankful for in your life. This will help to keep the negative thoughts from overwhelming your perspective.
You Refuse to Face the Truth
Complaining all the time about reality won’t change anything. Always complaining about your life is your refusal to acknowledge and accept the truth. There are things in your life that you just won’t be able to change, and refusing to see reality, will result in you no longer being able to separate fact from fiction. To change this, you have to take action and change those things that you can change and accept those things that you can’t change.
You are Angry When Your Expectations Aren’t Met
A large part of your mindset consists of your expectations. These are what you believe to be possible and necessary. If you are always angry with the people in your life because they aren’t meeting your expectations, it means that you have unrealistic expectations to start with. It is our expectations that lay the groundwork for our experiences, but if you have unrealistic expectations for yourself and those around you, you will never be satisfied with your life.
Always Seeing Yourself as the Victim
When you always see yourself as the victim, you are hindering your ability to change things and create a better life for yourself. A victim mentality is typically a by-product of low self-esteem. If you want to change your mindset, you have to reject the victim role and start building something better for your life.
Changing your mindset isn’t always easy, but it is one of the most powerful things that you can do for yourself. Learn how to recognize when you have a negative mindset and make the necessary changes to become more positive.
3 ways to Overcome Negativity in your life.
Having constant negative thoughts pouring through your mind will quickly put a stop to any creativity and tends to get in the way of realising your true potential. While we all know that being more positive and optimistic in our lives will help us find success but many struggle to make the change from a negative to a positive mindset. So let’s look at ways to overcome negativity.
Negative thoughts can affect your body and general wellbeing too.
These are some of the ways you can be affected
- Stomach aches
- Fatigue and exhaustion
- Heavy breathing
- Confusion and tension
- Sudden mood swings
- Anxiety or depression
Recognise when you have negative thoughts
It’s often when we are being ridiculed, face disappointment or don’t want to put in the effort to do something. We will often use negative thoughts to protect ourselves. We tell ourselves things like: “It won’t work,” or “I can’t do that,” we are permitting ourselves to play it safe, taking the negative option rather than thinking “I will try”.
When you catch yourself thinking negatively and talking yourself out of action, take a step back and remind yourself that the most successful people have also faced failure. If you are talking yourself out of something that you really want, just take the time to make a list of why you want it. The list of positives will help to change your focus and keep you moving forward.
Try gratitude it is a very powerful habit to have. Once you start thinking about things you are grateful for it starts to lift your mood. Start with basic things, such as having a roof over your head, clothes to wear and food to eat. As your thoughts become more positive you weill think of more things to be grateful for, family, friends, loved ones and graduate to events that make you happy.
Make a list either in your head or on paper as you wake each morning, it will start the day off well. You will feel happier to begin the day and it will have a more positive effect on the rest of the day. and as you go to sleep be grateful for things that made you smile or laugh during the day
Use Black and White Thinking
Many people will say “think positive.” However, as we all know, it isn’t always that easy. When you find yourself stuck in a cycle of negative thinking or are terrified of a negative outcome, positive thoughts often ring as untrue. When you find yourself worrying about a negative result, take a paper and pen to write down the worst thing that can happen. Then write down the best thing that could happen. After that think of some middle ground outcomes. Creating a variety of potential outcomes will make you less emotional and therefore able to think more clearly.
Become an Observer of Your Thoughts
Doesn’t it always seem much easier to see and solve someone else’s problems than your own? You can recognize when your sibling is getting all worked up over nothing or that losing sleep over a meeting isn’t going to help. However, when it is your mind dealing with negative thoughts, it’s a lot tougher to see what’s happening and stop. When you decide you want to be more positive, you need to become more conscious of what you are thinking.
When you can step back and analyse things as an observer, there will be a shift in your focus and you’ll be more mindful of how you are looking at the situation. Being able to focus more on positive thoughts will make you happier and more optimistic about your life in general. This will allow you to experience more joy and well-being.
Negativity can impact all areas of your life, those were just 3 ways to Overcome Negativity, there are of course many more. It can become such a habit to always look on the negative side that it becomes something done without realising. Once someone gets into a negative mindset any suggestions to help will be deflected with more negativity. Other people find it draining to be around someone who is negative all the time and will start to avoid them.
Once you become more positive you give off a completely different energy and people are drawn to you. Life, work, relationships go so much better and everything seems so much brighter.