What is happiness?
- The term happiness is used in the context of mental or emotional states, including positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. It is also used in the context of life satisfaction, subjective well-being, eudaimonia, flourishing and well-being.
- Happiness is an electrifying and elusive state. Philosophers, theologians, psychologists, and even economists have long sought to define it. And since the 1990s, a whole branch of psychology—positive psychology—has been dedicated to pinning it down. More than simply positive mood, happiness is a state of well-being that encompasses living a good life, one with a sense of meaning and deep contentment.
What do you think?
I don’t think we are here to be on a treadmill of existence. Do you?
Are you bored, numb, really living or just existing? Do you think there should be more to life than you are living, with the same humdrum routine.
Maybe none of that applies to you. Is your life exciting, fun and different, are you happy exactly as you are?
School, job, family, get up, work, home, feed family, watch TV, sleep, REPEAT!
Bombarded by media, online and offline, telling us what to wear, keep working for that bigger house, car, better clothes, latest shoes/bag/coat etc. Showing the latest holiday destination. Informing us that to do and have these things will make us HAPPY!
Uh huh! Really, does it?
Well yes for many, temporarily it does. But all this keeps us trapped in a never ending cycle of eat, work, sleep. On a treadmill that never stops revolving…. until we wake up and step off.
So, are you Happy?
So you have found your way here.
Perhaps you are realising that you aren’t happy, that all the ‘things’ don’t make you happy, except maybe for a few brief moments when the sought after must have is new. You wake up one day seeing things with new eyes or maybe it has been a gradual realisation. Either way, you feel different, the world seems different. You look around but no one else has seemed to notice. So you start searching ………
That means you’re awakening, seeking knowledge, you realise that there is much more to life than what you see and hear. You have become tired of that treadmill and are getting ready to step off or have already stepped off.
How does it feel? Good? Scary? Nerve wracking? Or do you just feel relief? Change is nerve wracking, even when you get pushed into it.
When I began, it felt like putting a puzzle together. Each piece led to the next piece. A book, a program, an article like a trail of breadcrumbs led me to each new piece of knowledge.
Then at times life took over and all of a sudden it would all be pushed aside, not deliberately but almost as though I wasn’t yet ready. As time went on the push to know more became more insistent. I devoured books, scoured the library and bookshops.
Sometimes I would bring home a book and couldn’t read it. I would pick it up, feel nauseated and put it down again. Then a couple of years later would read the book and take great strides forwards. I just hadn’t been ready for that knowledge the first time.
I had strange dreams that kept repeating until I understood the message. At various stages I met people who mentored/taught me for a while, though I didn’t realise it at the time.
Any of this sounding familiar to you?
Sometimes the Universe steps in
I didn’t give this all as much time and effort as I should have done. Life kept getting in the way. I would have times where I was an active seeker moving along the right path, following the breadcrumbs onwards. Then life would get in the way once more, other demands upon my time would take precedence.
So the universe stopped me in my tracks.
3 illnesses at once to keep me still and make me focus inwards. My eyes were affected so I couldn’t read much or watch television during this time, so I meditated a lot, widened my knowledge with audios.
It’s only when you learn to go within that you begin to find answers.
I learned to be still, that I didn’t have to fill every minute of every day with busyness. I learned to let go, to allow others to help, to realise that I didn’t need to control everything. Not easy things to learn when you are used to managing everything yourself.
It was not a good time, strength of will and staying mainly positive got me through. The one thing that I knew with absolute certainty during that time, was that I would be fine, I would get through it. It took a few years but I survived as I knew I would.
When you hear others stories you realise that you are not alone, that many have gone through similar epiphany’s to reach that good place. They have been through hell and back but they survived and it changed them. The amount of people who have told me that their life has changed for the better because of it, is amazing.
I have often said that having those illnesses was a good thing in a way because it was a catalyst for change.
It didn’t happen overnight, it was gradual, took a lot of time and effort but eventually I realised that I was working for myself, doing work I loved and my life was amazing. And it continued to grow more so, as I continued to learn and grow. I no longer took things for granted. I was grateful for life, for love and all the people in my life. Gratitude became a habit.
Eventually when you continue to learn and grow you reach a place where you feel the sheer joy of living well up often until you feel you might burst and it makes you laugh out loud with the sheer joy of living. A place where you are happy, despite anything life throws at you.
Reach for happiness
You have to work on yourself, to learn to like and love yourself for who you are. Many think its being selfish but it’s not. YOU are important and your wellbeing is important.
Being Happy is your birthright, it’s not something to hope for. You already have it inside you, you just have to learn to set it free.
You need to realise that you are worth the effort, that you are as important as anyone else in your life. That your life can be different, you just have to take the first steps on that path to find the real you and allow yourself to be happy all the time and really live your life.
To find that place where you realise that happiness was within your power all along and that’s an amazing place to be.
Are you happy? Do you want to be happy all the time?
Does any of this resonate with you? Please let me know either way.
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