Choices good or bad create your life

Choice

CHOICE!

Choices good or bad create your life which means the life you have now is because of all the choices you have made up to this point. Now that can be hard to take in, especially if you aren’t happy with the way your life is right now. Every choice you make impacts your life and changes it for good or bad. The smallest decision can make a difference. When you look back over decisions made in the past, even ones you didn’t really think much about, it makes you realise that in reality your life is created by your choices.

From Wikipedia:

  • Choice involves decision making. It can include judging the merits of multiple options and selecting one or more of them. One can make a choice between imagined options or between real options followed by the corresponding action.*

Every single day we make choices whether you realise it or not.

Many people believe that life happens to them so things that happen in their life, isn’t their fault. Do you? Or do you realise that your life is created by your choices?

What Choices do you make?

Do you take the route of doing nothing when there are choices to be made, believing that any consequences that occur are not your fault?  Well I don’t like to disillusion you but ……….. that too is a choice. You are choosing not to make a choice and therefore the consequences of that choice are your responsibility.

signpost. Choices good or bad create your life

As we go through life we make choices, even as children. Choosing friends, books to read, whether to work hard in school or not. Then at high school choosing the subjects to take for exams. Thinking about what direction to go in after school, university or straight into a job.

Every day we choose when to get up, what to eat, whether to exercise, turn up for the job/school/interview etc.

How much cleaning gets done, laundry, washing/hoovering floors, dusting/getting rid of cobwebs etc.

What to do to relax, read or watch TV, do something creative or the myriad of other choices we have.

Many of these choices are done automatically, we don’t think about them much at all, it’s just something we do as part of daily life.

What do You want from life?

If you have found your way here you are clearly looking for change. So do you have an idea of what you want to change in your life?

Your job, home, relationship? Not as big as that or just too big a task to start with?

Your happiness level? Are you happy?

If you have been looking at others lives and wondering why their lives are so different or better you now know it’s about choices. Yes it can be irritating to see someone that’s no different to you in background, schooling, intelligence etc and yet they are now way ahead of you in the life stakes.

It makes you wonder if maybe it is pure luck, if so then there’s nothing you can do about it. An easy option right there. Luck is fickle, it hits you or it doesn’t, therefore it’s pointless trying to make changes. Right?

WRONG!

Good choices, bad choices.

Why are some choices good and others considered bad? Is there such a thing as a good or bad choice?

It’s not that the choice is good or bad it’s more about the outcome. If you aren’t happy with the result of the choice then you have learnt not to make that choice again.

When we make choices deliberately then we are taking responsibility for our lives. We understand that anything that goes wrong is down to a choice we made either recently or in the past.

We aren’t blaming others or expecting other people to get us out of problems of our own making, we are taking responsibility for our choices and subsequently our own lives.

When you make a deliberate choice and then take action you are creating a pathway to the future. Along the way you will make other choices, some may need adjusting as you go, as they steer you off the path. That’s not failure, it’s a course correction to keep you heading in the right direction.

Conclusion.

Choices are an everyday part of life, many we make unconsciously.

The rest you:

Either opt out of and don’t take responsibility for your life, the direction it takes and the way it is now.

Or you take charge of your life and make choices that take your life in the direction you want it to go. So you enjoy the life you have now and eventually have the life of your dreams as you shape your future.

Choose wisely because Choices good or bad create your life every single day.

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Beyond the Comfort Zone

What is a Comfort Zone?

Collins Dictionary defines it as: If a situation or activity is out of your comfort zone, it does not make you feel secure, comfortable, or in control.

Beyond the Comfort Zone

It’s a safe place to stay inside, unlike going beyond the comfort zone. Nothing exciting happens, nothing much changes and pretty much everything is on an even keel. Sound familiar?

No new horizons to explore, no pushing the boundaries of existence. Does that sound a bit dull?

Don’t you feel the urge for change? That urge is there somewhere, otherwise you wouldn’t be looking for answers. I suspect there is a part of you, however small it is, that is getting the urge to break free. Or just to have something different in your life, maybe.

Do you go beyond the comfort zone?

A lot, a little, never?

A comfort zone can be a safe place to watch the world from but wouldn’t you rather step outside it and take part in life?

Whats that? You like where you are? Really? Then why are you here? Something has brought you here, maybe it’s the need to find something more than the safe life you have. It begins with a restlessness, discomfort, a need to see what’s out there.

Yes, the world can be scary but it is also amazing, wonderful, exciting and a good place to explore is a comfort zone?

Why leave the Comfort Zone?

WHY?

Because there is a whole world out there to explore. Do you want to see the world or even parts of it for yourself? Wouldn’t it be amazing to actually see and touch things you have only seen through a screen or in a book? Wouldn’t you like to be free?

Eventually it can feel like ties that bind or chains that hold you in place.

Maybe that is a step too far. What about having new experiences, meeting new people, moving house or changing your job?

It’s very easy to become too complacent and comfortable in your Comfort Zone. But the outside world doesn’t stand still. It continually changes and eventually can end up disrupting that safe life you thought you had.

And think about it. Do you really want your life to be exactly the same in 2 or 5 years time as it is now?

What are the benefits of leaving your Comfort Zone?

Experiencing real life.

A bit of stress and anxiety are good for us, it helps us to grow as people. It’s not good for us to remain in a comfortable bubble. insulated against the world.  If we do, when a time of change occurs, it can be hard to cope with.

New experiences are all part of growth too even though we are often afraid of failing. Obstacles and challenges raise those fears, but there is a greater sense of accomplishment when we succeed.  Taking risks is really breaking through the barrier.

Challenges and obstacles are things we face and overcome, whereas taking a risk is stepping forward, away from the comfort zone and into the unknown.

Taking risks are growth experiences. Many people avoid these due to the chance for failure but failure is also a growth opportunity.

You come to understand that the only real failure is giving up, that each failure teaches you a way Not to do something.

You also come to realise that fail means ‘First attempt in learning.’

Change is good

Life is all about change, day to day change, week to week and even year to year. What am I waffling about? Change is good. It keeps us learning and growing and stops us from stagnating.

If there are no changes then you begin to exist rather than live. Is that really what you want? Even small chan

Conclusion

Pushing at the boundaries of that Comfort zone is clearly a good thing even if it’s only occasional.

Staying within that zone is existing, not living.

Stepping out will allow you to grow as a person, gain new skills and breakthrough even more boundaries. As you realise how much you can do and achieve, those boundaries will get pushed back even further. Life will take on new colour and meaning, becoming exhilarating at times as you start to really live your life as you are meant to. You will have your freedom back and be happy.

Get the Attitude of Gratitude habit

Thank you

Attitude of Gratitude

It was World Gratitude Day the other day.

Who knew there was such a thing, not me. Thankful. Get the Attitude of Gratitude habit

BUT….

If you get the Attitude of gratitude habit and it can really change your life.

The more grateful you are, the more you have to be grateful for. It sounds corny but it’s true.

You might say: I don’t have anything to be grateful for. I don’t have a job, a nice home, any money etc.

BUT! You are alive, you may not have much but the little you do have is a reason to be grateful. You wake up in the morning, you breathe, you can think. All reasons to be grateful.

You own or have access to technology, otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this. Once you find a few reasons to be grateful, you will soon find more.

Gratitude can bring happiness. When you learn to truly appreciate what you have it brings contentment and happiness. While you are being grateful, a positive thing, you aren’t having negative thoughts to bring you down further.

Will it make a Difference?

It won’t change your life overnight! I know that’s a bit off putting but you know what they say?

“Nothing worthwhile ever comes easy.”

Is that true though? I suppose it all comes down to belief. I suspect that one could be classed as a limiting belief. If you grow up hearing that, it becomes true for you.

What is Gratitude?

I googled it and got this:

noun
“she expressed her gratitude to the committee for their support”
Similar words:
gratefulness
thankfulness

thanks

appreciation
recognition

How can it help me?

This article from the Guardian newspaper on 23rd October 2018 states:

  • Study after study has found a robust association between higher levels of gratitude and wellbeing, including protection from stress and depression, more fulfilling relationships, better sleep and greater resilience. Simple exercises that people can do on their own – such as spending two weeks writing a daily list of three things for which they are grateful – have been found to increase life satisfaction, decrease worry and improve body image, with the beneficial effects lasting for up to six months. Robert Emmons, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Davis, and a world authority on gratitude, has advocated that interventions such as this be used by therapists to help their patients.*
  • Happiness is a strong feeling of appreciation to someone or something for what the person has done to help you. The feeling or quality of being grateful.

The benefits of Gratitude:

For the individual:

  • increased happiness and positive mood
  • more satisfaction with life
  • less materialistic
  • less likely to experience burnout
  • better physical health
  • better sleep
  • less fatigue
  • lower levels of cellular inflammation
  • greater resiliency
  • encourages the development of patience, humility, and wisdom

For groups:

  • increases prosocial behaviors
  • strengthens relationships
  • may help employees’ effectiveness
  • may increase job satisfaction

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Are you Happy

Choose Joy

What is happiness?

Wikipedia says:

  • The term happiness is used in the context of mental or emotional states, including positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. It is also used in the context of life satisfaction, subjective well-being, eudaimonia, flourishing and well-being.

Psychology today Says:

  • Happiness is an electrifying and elusive state. Philosophers, theologians, psychologists, and even economists have long sought to define it. And since the 1990s, a whole branch of psychology—positive psychology—has been dedicated to pinning it down. More than simply positive mood, happiness is a state of well-being that encompasses living a good life, one with a sense of meaning and deep contentment.

What do you think?

I don’t think we are here to be on a treadmill of existence. Do you?

Are you bored, numb, really living or just existing? Do you think there should be more to life than you are living, with the same humdrum routine.

Maybe none of that applies to you. Is your life exciting, fun and different, are you happy exactly as you are?

 A runner on a treadmill. Are you Happy?School, job, family, get up, work, home, feed family, watch TV, sleep, REPEAT!

Sound familiar?

Bombarded by media, online and offline, telling us what to wear, keep working for that bigger house, car, better clothes, latest shoes/bag/coat etc. Showing the latest holiday destination. Informing us that to do and have these things will make us HAPPY!

Uh huh! Really, does it?

Well yes for many, temporarily it does. But all this keeps us trapped in a never ending cycle of eat, work, sleep. On a treadmill that never stops revolving…. until we wake up and step off.

So, are you Happy?

So you have found your way here.

Perhaps you are realising that you aren’t happy, that all the ‘things’ don’t make you happy, except maybe for a few brief moments when the sought after must have is new.  You wake up one day seeing things with new eyes or maybe it has been a gradual realisation. Either way, you feel different, the world seems different. You look around but no one else has seemed to notice. So you start searching ………

That means you’re awakening, seeking knowledge,  you realise that there is much more to life than what you see and hear. You have become tired of that treadmill and are getting ready to step off or have already stepped off.

How does it feel? Good? Scary? Nerve wracking? Or do you just feel relief? Change is nerve wracking, even when you get pushed into it.

When I began,  it felt like putting a puzzle together. Each piece led to the next piece. A book, a program, an article like a trail of breadcrumbs led me to each new piece of knowledge.

Then at times life took over and all of a sudden it would all be pushed aside, not deliberately but almost as though I wasn’t yet ready. As time went on the push to know more became more insistent. I devoured books, scoured the library and bookshops.

Sometimes I would bring home a book and couldn’t read it. I would pick it up, feel nauseated and put it down again. Then a couple of years later would read the book and take great strides forwards. I just hadn’t been ready for that knowledge the first time.

I had strange dreams that kept repeating until I understood the message. At various stages I met people who mentored/taught me for a while, though I didn’t realise it at the time.

Any of this sounding familiar to you?

Sometimes the Universe  steps in

I didn’t give this all as much time and effort as I should have done. Life kept getting in the way. I would have times where I was an active seeker moving along the right path, following the breadcrumbs onwards. Then life would get in the way once more, other demands upon my time would take precedence.

So the universe stopped me in my tracks.

3 illnesses at once to keep me still and make me focus inwards. My eyes were affected so I couldn’t read much or watch television during this time, so I meditated a lot, widened my knowledge with audios.

It’s only when you learn to go within that you begin to find answers.

I learned to be still, that I didn’t have to fill every minute of every day with busyness. I learned to let go, to allow others to help, to realise that I didn’t need to control everything. Not easy things to learn when you are used to managing everything yourself.

It was not a good time, strength of will and staying mainly positive got me through. The one thing that I knew with absolute certainty during that time, was that I would be fine, I would get through it. It took a few years but I survived as I knew I would.

Epiphany’s

When you hear others stories you realise that you are not alone, that many have gone through similar epiphany’s to reach that good place. They have been through hell and back but they survived and it changed them. The amount of people who have told me that their life has changed for the better because of it, is amazing.

I have often said that having those illnesses was a good thing in a way because it was a catalyst for change.

It didn’t happen overnight, it was gradual, took a lot of time and effort but eventually I realised that I was working for myself, doing work I loved and my life was amazing. And it continued to grow more so, as I continued to learn and grow. I no longer took things for granted. I was grateful for life, for love and all the people in my life. Gratitude became a habit.

Eventually when you continue to learn and grow you reach a place where you feel the sheer joy of living well up often until you feel you might burst and it makes you laugh out loud with the sheer joy of living. A place where you are happy, despite anything life throws at you.

Reach for happiness

You have to work on yourself, to learn to like and love yourself for who you are. Many think its being selfish but it’s not. YOU are important and your wellbeing is important.

Being Happy is your birthright, it’s not something to hope for. You already have it inside you, you just have to learn to set it free.

You need to realise that you are worth the effort, that you are as important as anyone else in your life. That your life can be different, you just have to take the first steps on that path to find the real you and allow yourself to be happy all the time and really live your life.

To find that place where you realise that happiness was within your power all along and that’s an amazing place to be.

Are you happy? Do you want to be happy all the time?

Does any of this resonate with you? Please let me know either way.

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