What is change?
Change is the only thing in life that is constant, so what is the definition of change? There will always be changes whether we like them or not, it’s a natural process that will always occur. Some are caused by nature and not of our doing, while others occur by sudden inclination.
- “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” Lao Tzu
- “Life is about change, sometimes it’s painful. Sometimes it’s beautiful. But most of the time, it’s both.” Lana Lang.
- “One reason people resist change is because they focus on what they have to give up, instead of what they have to gain.” Rick Godwin.
Definition of change
From the Merriam-Webster dictionary.
- Verb: to become different, or to make someone or something different.
There are also many other ways of putting it. The Cambridge Dictionary is much the same.
I could copy and paste great swathes of information but I won’t as you can have a look by clicking on the name if you are interested.
Alternative words for change:
alteration, variation, vicissitude, substitution, swerving, deviation, diversion, shuffling, difference, reconstruction, aberration, evolution, restyling, innovation, move, interchange, trade, switch, fluctuation, wavering, modulation, alternating, exchange, mutation, transformation, transmutation, modification, vary, swap, shift….
And there are many more.
So change is a big part of life in its many different forms.
As human beings, we tend to resist change. It begins when we are small as we go through a phase of wanting everything to be the same, such as: food (all meals), toys, clothes, the journeys taken and so on.
- The fear of change or changing things is called Metathesiophobia.
Where does the fear originate from?
Most likely from cavemen times. There was safety in sticking to the same routes when travelling or hunting because life was more dangerous.
They stuck close to home and socialised with their own tribe. Strangers meant danger, they probably wanted to kill you.
Heights came with the possibility of falling, speed probably meant you were running for your life. Excitement very likely meant fighting for your life.
Everything back then was about survival, there was danger in change. It wasn’t a good thing to do. Now however, we have evolved but the instincts to resist change are still there.
Why is Change Good now?
We no longer have to be as hyper alert to danger as our ancestors were. So change is good, without change we stagnate. We tend to stay within our comfort zone and it becomes a habit.
A young couple in a relationship need change to keep it moving forwards. If the relationship doesn’t change and grow it stagnates and they drift apart.
Some people as they get older stick to the same habits and routines that gradually diminish their interactions with others. Their world shrinks until they are existing rather than living. Life should be about expanding your horizons and comfort zone, rather than shrinking it.
Live, don’t just Exist.
It has never been easier to learn new things even if you don’t have permanent access to a desktop computer or laptop. Nowadays you can use them in libraries for free and there are internet cafes. Many access the internet on their phones with the free WiFi available in so many places.
The internet opens our world up to infinite possibilities, explore them and grow as a person.
Older people cant learn new things?
Actually they can. The saying used to be ” An old dog can’t learn new tricks”. People apply this to themselves. It’s a good excuse for not making an effort.
Scientists have proved that we can continue to grow new neural networks well into our 90’s if we continue learning.
Curiousity keeps us young. Be curious about the world we live in and about your own smaller world. Ask yourself why people do this or that, how something is made and what would happen if…..
Being curious keeps us interested in life and whats going on around us. A chance comment or a written sentence can lead us to learn a wealth of new information without even trying. Learning doesn’t have to be boring. Many people are put off because they think of their schooldays, often learning by repetition.
Some things are good to learn that way, others just boring. I still know my times tables and they still come in useful. In my schooldays we recited them over and over until we knew them by heart. But it’s not exactly an exciting way to learn.
Why should I bother?
Because it can be fun.
It gives you something to talk about with others.
Exchanging views, talking about what you have learnt can be enjoyable. If you really listen and don’t just listen to have your say, you will find that the other person’s view can change yours a little. They may have a view you haven’t considered, that you may think about later and eventually integrates with your views, especially if you have an open mind.
What’s an open mind?
- 12 Feb 2020 – open mind definition: to wait until you know all the facts before forming an opinion or making a judgment.
- Open mind definition is – a willingness to listen to or accept different ideas or opinions.
I agree with both of those. We learn by listening and not immediately jumping to conclusions.
Many will only consider their own point of view despite evidence that contradicts them. Though to be honest you can find information, facts and figures to support pretty much any hypothesis, which encourages people to close their minds to other possibilities.
So we started with change and it ‘changed’ into discussions on views and keeping an open mind. Which of course is what much change is about. A willingness to look at new things and consider them.
To try something different without automatically saying, I can’t.
Try saying, I will try, instead of the automatic no, I can’t. It could lead to you having fun and enjoying life much more.
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