The Power of Positive Thought

The power of positive thought

The Damaging Negativity

Most of us will answer “I don’t mind” to a vast array of questions. From what we want for dinner/lunch,breakfast to suggestions of things to do and places to go and even on what to watch on TV.I dont know in letters
At times we do think first and still say ‘I don’t mind’ because we think it’s a nicer response when asked a question.

Rather than forcing everyone to do what we want, we instead pretend that we don’t have an opinion in order to keep everyone else happy.
Now that seems nice but can end up making you feel resentful, having to do things you really don’t want to do.

We all have the power of positive thought but we have to make a conscious effort to use it rather than responding automatically.

The Mayo Clinic website says:

  • Positive thinking doesn’t mean that you keep your head in the sand and ignore life’s less pleasant situations. Positive thinking just means that you approach unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way. You think the best is going to happen, not the worst.
  • Positive thinking often starts with self-talk. Self-talk is the endless stream of unspoken thoughts that run through your head. These automatic thoughts can be positive or negative. Some of your self-talk comes from logic and reason. Other self-talk may arise from misconceptions that you create because of lack of information.
  • If the thoughts that run through your head are mostly negative, your outlook on life is more likely pessimistic. If your thoughts are mostly positive, you’re likely an optimist — someone who practices positive thinking.

Responsibility

Sometimes you can’t decide what to do for best and prefer to avoid the responsibility of making the wrong choice, so you say ‘I don’t mind’, giving someone else the job of making that decision.
The trouble with this is there’s a very real chance that everyone will say they don’t mind, which then slows things down because no one wants to make a decision.
Another danger is that you end up seeming disinterested as though you really don’t care enough to give an answer. That can be annoying when someone is offering you a drink or refreshments, for example, as either you get nothing or something you don’t like.
Sometimes the other person will then give their opinion and you end up doing what they want instead. This can lead to resentment as you can feel as though you never get to do what you want.

Others can also find it irritating having to always make the decisions.

Speaking Your MindIts all in your head, Use the power of positive thought.

‘I don’t mind’ is essentially basically conflict avoidance of discussions and can make you look completely incapable of making decisions.
And the daft part is that there’s actually nothing impolite about speaking your mind and saying what you’d prefer.

Make sure you make it clear that you are open to others opinions too. Instead of ‘I don’t mind’, try: ‘I’d prefer we had the lasagne tonight but I’m open to other options’. See, that doesn’t seem so difficult, does it?

Whether you want to be more positive or stay more negative, it’s a choice you make. Use your mind to be more positive.

The Law of Attraction can Transform Your Life & Beliefs

Many of us want our lives to change, but we don’t know how to do anything about it. We assume that our lives will change of their own accord and that we will then change as a result. Then hope we will feel happier and more confident because of it.
What many don’t realise is that more often than not, this actually works the other way around.

That by acting the way we want to feel, we end up feeling that way and then our life ends up changing too! This is what we call the “law of attraction.”

How it Works

Want to be more successful? Start using the power of positive thought to make the changes you want.

Start acting like you’re already successful. Then people start treating you as more successful and they give you more opportunities. So then you become ‘luckier’.lucky four leaf clover

It’s not chance or a symbol you carry, like a four leaf clover, it’s the more positive mindset, that draws those opportunities to you.
Want to be richer? Act richer. Want to do better at work? Believe you can. Want to be smarter? Act smarter.
This is closely related to what are known as ‘self-fulfilling prophecies’. These are situations where you actually change your behavior in line with your beliefs. A great example is what’s known as a ‘scotoma’ or a ‘blind spot’.
Ever lost your phone and searched for it for hours only to have a friend come up and find it in seconds? That’s a scotoma in action – you have convinced yourself that the item is lost and this belief literally prevents you from finding that item.
The same can happen in our careers or love lives. If you tell yourself you’re a failure then your unconscious mind will actually sabotage your success in those areas.

Those beliefs are or become limiting beliefs, once fixed in the subconscious, they operate to protect you.

What can you do?

To be as successful as you can be in any capacity, you need to eliminate doubt. Does that seem overly simple? It is but it’s also hard to do as we tend to self sabotage without even realising it.
For example, if you believe you are no good at your job, you might find yourself slouching, not speaking up in meetings and trying to hide from taking on additional responsibility, it’s quite normal behaviour for that belief.
But as a result of course, you will find that people don’t believe you have what it takes to get a promotion at all. If you don’t act the part, you don’t get the part.
The same thing happens in dating. If you think you’re bad looking, you won’t approach attractive members of the opposite sex because you are convinced they are out of your league. So you don’t dress to impress, thereby aiding you in this impression. You very likely avoid eye contact and give the impression of lack of confidence. All helping to make this a self fulfilling prophecy.

To break the cycle, start by changing your thoughts. You are worth the best that life has to offer, the promotion, the best dates. Tell yourself that over and over until the thought is second nature.

The start behavinging like you believe in yourself. That means dressing better, taking risks and being more assertive. You’ll find you attract more positive attention and that this can lead to better results as well as improving the way you think about yourself.

Take positive steps

Here’s a unique concept that can help you to become the best version of yourself possible:
Have a celebration!
This is about saying goodbye to old negative habits, the old version of you and welcoming the new person you have become. Make it a celebration of stepping into your new life.

Decide you are going to be the best version of yourself, walk tall, head high and look people in the eye with a smile. Maybe you will start out quaking in your shoes but within a very short time it will be a habit and your confidence will grow.

The more you check the negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts, the better your life will become.

Step into your future with confidence.

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Why are Limiting Beliefs bad

Stop sign. What are limiting beliefs

Why are we interested or even want to know the answer to the question of why are Limiting Beliefs bad?

We are interested because of the way they can influence and impact upon our life now and future. The way they STOP us doing things we want to do especially reaching our goals in all areas of our life as well as work/business.

Limiting beliefs come about from things we have heard through our lives often from childhood. We tend to be more emotionally susceptible to the experiences that we have early on in life than we are later in life.

It’s often said that children are like sponges, absorbing all sorts of things that they hear and see as well as things they are taught.

Children pick up many things that become Core beliefs.

What is a Belief?

From Your Dictionary.

  1. the state of believing; conviction or acceptance that certain things are true or real
  2. faith, esp. religious faith
  3. trust or confidence: I have belief in his ability
  4. anything believed or accepted as true; esp., a creed, doctrine, or tenet
  5. an opinion; expectation; judgment: my belief is that he’ll come

From the Merriam Webster Dictionary.

  • 1a state or habit of mind in which trust or confidence is placed in some person or thing.
  • 2something that is accepted, considered to be true, or held as an opinion something believed.
  • 3conviction of the truth of some statement or the reality of some being or phenomenon especially when based on examination of evidence

And we learn this from Wikipeadia.

  • Belief is the attitude that something is the case or true. In epistemology, philosophers use the term “belief” to refer to personal attitudes associated with true or false ideas and concepts. However, “belief” does not require active introspection and circumspection. For example, few ponder whether the sun will rise, just assume it will.

What are Core beliefs?

Wikipeadia says:

Basic beliefs (also commonly called foundational beliefs or core beliefs) are, under the epistemological view called foundationalism, the axioms of a belief system.

Categories of beliefs

Foundationalism holds that all beliefs must be justified in order to be believed. Beliefs therefore fall into two categories:

  • Beliefs that are properly basic, in that they do not depend upon justification of other beliefs, but on something outside the realm of belief.
  • Beliefs that derive from one or more basic beliefs, and therefore depend on the basic beliefs for their validity.

 

This makes perfect sense. believe in yourself  Why are Limiting Beliefs badWe have foundation or core beliefs that come from our surroundings and the people in our young lives. These give out lives structure and a basis to grow into our world. Many are also in place to keep us safe from people and situations, even the outside world.

So those beliefs can also hold us back.

We can say positive statements/mantras, believe that we can become successful and have the perfect life. That we can reach lofty goals if we just work harder and faster, that belief in ourselves will win the day.

Then we feel that we are not doing enough or doing something wrong. After all there are plenty of others doing the same things and living that perfect life.

Are Core and Limiting Beliefs the same?

I believe that limiting beliefs are the core beliefs that hold us back in life. Those core beliefs don’t change and grow with us, they don’t adjust as our world changes and we change from child to adult.

Consider how many young adults vote the same way their parents did. Many follow the religion they are brought up in.

They don’t question these or others like them. Some will and some will be encouraged to be independant and make their own minds up. That is rare though. Most parents bring up their children the same way they were brought up.

From the blog Inc.com

  • You have core beliefs that guide the decisions you make. They affect how you interpret the events in your life and they influence the way you think, feel, and behave.
  • Your healthy beliefs serve you well. But, the unrealistic, self-limiting beliefs you hold onto–and everyone has some unhealthy beliefs–can hold you back from reaching your greatest potential.
  • It’s important to acknowledge your core beliefs and examine which ones might be inaccurate and unproductive. Then, you can take steps to let go of the beliefs that are limiting your potential.

The unhealthy beliefs can be about yourself, others or the world.

What makes them Limiting Beliefs?

They hold us up, keep us back in the slow lane, behind everyone else.10 kmh sign

From Changingminds.org

  • Limiting beliefs are those that constrain us in some way. Just by believing in them, we don’t think, do or say the things they inhibit. And in doing so we impoverish our lives.
  • We may have them about rights, duties, abilities, permissions and so on.
  • Limiting beliefs are often about ourselves and our self identity. They may also be about other people and the world in general.
  • Most of all, they limit us

Common Limiting Beliefs.

From MindShifts

  • 1. I’m too old
  • 2. I’m not smart enough
  • 3. I am not educated enough
  • 4. I’m afraid of trying and failing
  • 5. You have to have money to make money
  • 6. I’ve already tried everything
  • 7. I can’t do that
  • 8. I don’t feel I really deserve it
  • 9. I’ll never be able to do that
  • 10. All the good ones are taken

 

Any of those sound familiar? The first one can also be the opposite,  too young. Quite a few of those go under the very common one. “I’m not good enough”.  This one can impact all areas of your life, constantly holding you back.

There are the money based limiting beliefs. These can hold you back from reaching success as often you end up self sabotaging before you actually become successful.

Do You Want more out of life!

Do you? Have you tried over and over again to change your life, worked hard, 2 or even 3 jobs to try and get ahead?

Do you feel that something inexplicably stops you from having the life you want? Or do you wonder why success is always out of reach?

Do you want to do more with your life?

There are so many limiting beliefs stored in your subconscious mind, that were originally there to keep you safe. That was good when you were a child but now as an adult they can keep you from living the life you want. From reaching goals, to never quite attaining success, to choice of life partner and so on.

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Limiting beliefs can hold you back in so many ways and can stop you from living a fulfilled and happy life.

It can affect the life partner you choose, the work you go for as well as you general views on life.

There are many people who start businesses, new jobs etc that always give up before they start to do really well at the job or the business starts to take off. Those around them tend to be baffled by it and wonder why. It’s not a deliberate attempt to sabotage themselves, it’s a subconscious move. If they become successful and then wealthy it will go against a long held belief or a set of beliefs.

The human potential is almost limitless, but having potential is not the same as actually doing something with it. Many never fulfill even a small part of that potential because of limiting beliefs they have no idea they have.

So the answer to why are Limiting Beliefs bad is that they can affect every area of your life. They can affect the choices you make and ultimately affect your happiness, without you ever realising why.

Did I answer this question of What are Limiting Beliefs?

Do you feel that something inexplicably stops you from having the life you want? Or do you wonder why success is always out of reach?

Do you want to do more with your life?

Maybe it’s time to get that life you want. Now that you know what’s holding you back, it’s time to take the steps to break free, to head for the exit and freedom to be who you really are.

My next post will be how to do that.

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Beyond the Comfort Zone

What is a Comfort Zone?

Collins Dictionary defines it as: If a situation or activity is out of your comfort zone, it does not make you feel secure, comfortable, or in control.

Beyond the Comfort Zone

It’s a safe place to stay inside, unlike going beyond the comfort zone. Nothing exciting happens, nothing much changes and pretty much everything is on an even keel. Sound familiar?

No new horizons to explore, no pushing the boundaries of existence. Does that sound a bit dull?

Don’t you feel the urge for change? That urge is there somewhere, otherwise you wouldn’t be looking for answers. I suspect there is a part of you, however small it is, that is getting the urge to break free. Or just to have something different in your life, maybe.

Do you go beyond the comfort zone?

A lot, a little, never?

A comfort zone can be a safe place to watch the world from but wouldn’t you rather step outside it and take part in life?

Whats that? You like where you are? Really? Then why are you here? Something has brought you here, maybe it’s the need to find something more than the safe life you have. It begins with a restlessness, discomfort, a need to see what’s out there.

Yes, the world can be scary but it is also amazing, wonderful, exciting and a good place to explore is a comfort zone?

Why leave the Comfort Zone?

WHY?

Because there is a whole world out there to explore. Do you want to see the world or even parts of it for yourself? Wouldn’t it be amazing to actually see and touch things you have only seen through a screen or in a book? Wouldn’t you like to be free?

Eventually it can feel like ties that bind or chains that hold you in place.

Maybe that is a step too far. What about having new experiences, meeting new people, moving house or changing your job?

It’s very easy to become too complacent and comfortable in your Comfort Zone. But the outside world doesn’t stand still. It continually changes and eventually can end up disrupting that safe life you thought you had.

And think about it. Do you really want your life to be exactly the same in 2 or 5 years time as it is now?

What are the benefits of leaving your Comfort Zone?

Experiencing real life.

A bit of stress and anxiety are good for us, it helps us to grow as people. It’s not good for us to remain in a comfortable bubble. insulated against the world.  If we do, when a time of change occurs, it can be hard to cope with.

New experiences are all part of growth too even though we are often afraid of failing. Obstacles and challenges raise those fears, but there is a greater sense of accomplishment when we succeed.  Taking risks is really breaking through the barrier.

Challenges and obstacles are things we face and overcome, whereas taking a risk is stepping forward, away from the comfort zone and into the unknown.

Taking risks are growth experiences. Many people avoid these due to the chance for failure but failure is also a growth opportunity.

You come to understand that the only real failure is giving up, that each failure teaches you a way Not to do something.

You also come to realise that fail means ‘First attempt in learning.’

Change is good

Life is all about change, day to day change, week to week and even year to year. What am I waffling about? Change is good. It keeps us learning and growing and stops us from stagnating.

If there are no changes then you begin to exist rather than live. Is that really what you want? Even small chan

Conclusion

Pushing at the boundaries of that Comfort zone is clearly a good thing even if it’s only occasional.

Staying within that zone is existing, not living.

Stepping out will allow you to grow as a person, gain new skills and breakthrough even more boundaries. As you realise how much you can do and achieve, those boundaries will get pushed back even further. Life will take on new colour and meaning, becoming exhilarating at times as you start to really live your life as you are meant to. You will have your freedom back and be happy.

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