YOU are perfect!! Yes, you reading this.
Your immediate reaction is denial and maybe a hint of anger. You think I am joking. BUT I’m not.
YOU are perfect, in your own unique way.
There is no one else quite like you on the planet. You are unique. Even if you have an identical twin there are still differences and you are still unique. You are perfect at being you, there is no one else like you on the planet.
You have got this far by being perfectly you, even though you still do not believe this statement.
Why we don’t believe
From childhood upwards, for many, approval from parents, siblings, wider family members, teachers, tutors, coaches etc depends on certain behaviours or achievements. Approval and praise is dealt out by how well we did in school and further education, from reports to exams and everything in between, to achievements at work and so on.
We are told to seek perfection but also told that nobody is perfect. Where is the sense in that?
Social media doesn’t help as it can bring feelings of inadequacy when we see snippets of others lives that, convinced they live like that all the time.
An article about a picture shown on Instagram detailed how it was set up and arranged to look natural. It took over 2 hours to create that one ‘natural’ shot. It shows that what you see, may be a spur of the moment photo, but it may not. The thing to remember about social media, is that those pictures are a few seconds of their lives, not how they live all the time.
Self help and/or personal development is a massive industry now, that continues to grow rapidly.
- Market Value… Marketdata estimates that the self-improvement market in the U.S. alone, was worth $11.0 billion in 2018, versus $9.38 billion in 2016. The market grew about 18% in two years, fueled by growth in personal coaching services, self-help books and audiobooks, and weight loss programs. We expect the market to grow 5% in 2019 to $11.6 billion, and 4.8% per year, on average, between 2019 and 2023, when the market should be worth $13.9 billion.
What Does “Self Help” Mean?
- On the eve of each new year, people commit to making lifestyle changes they believe will usher in personal satisfaction and happiness. But while an entire industry exists to help people meet these pressing goals, most individuals still flounder. How many times can we try to lose weight, quit smoking, cut back on alcohol consumption, or try to find a more suitable purpose in life? One answer: As many times as it takes to get it right.
- Lasting change is difficult to achieve because many of our habits are deeply ingrained, and certain core personality attributes may be immutable. But all habits and character traits can be altered to varying degrees. It’s never too late to change and with effort and determination, it is possible to be the person you want to be, or at least someone closer to it.
I would think that at this time with the Covid-19 pandemic the industry would be growing even faster with so many countries in Lockdown. It is a difficult time with the restrictions, only allowed to exercise once a day or in some countries, not allowed out at all.
For those that have a garden it is easier as you can at least exercise or sit and relax outside in the fresh air. If you have no access to green spaces it makes everything much worse. Being out in nature has been shown to help stress and anxiety.
How can nature benefit my mental health?
- Spending time in green space or bringing nature into your everyday life can benefit both your mental and physical wellbeing. For example, doing things like growing food or flowers, exercising outdoors or being around animals can have lots of positive effects. It can:
- improve your mood
- reduce feelings of stress or anger
- help you take time out and feel more relaxed
- improve your physical health
- improve your confidence and self-esteem
- help you be more active
- help you make new connections
- provide peer support.
The effects of Lockdown has affected many people from those living alone to families. People are worried about the wider family and friends as well as immediate family.
Those living alone don’t have their usual support network or the ability to go out when the four walls get too much. The families are all at home together 24 hours a day which can be difficult. It’s tough home schooling and trying to work from home without the usual help being available.
So what’s that got to do with being Perfect?
Situations become more stressful because of the pressure we put upon ourselves. We feel everything has to be perfect. Work, kids, home, relationship etc. There is no perfect in any of that, everyone just muddles through as best they can.
Those that appear to have a perfect life with everything under control, really don’t. They are just better at hiding it or they have a lot of help.
Perfection really doesn’t exist, there is no standard for it. I believe it is in the eye of the beholder. One person will look at a view and declare it perfect. Another will glance at it and see something completely different.
Don’t try to be perfect because it doesn’t exist. Just be perfect, in your own unique way. Don’t have plastic surgery and go on extreme diets to look perfect and don’t spend a fortune on clothes and accessories to try and appear perfect.
Just be YOU. Perfect exactly as you are. Be happy in the knowledge that no one else in the entire world can be as perfect at being you as you do.
Believe in yourself.
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